Comments on: Disconnect from what you don’t want.

By: Kyeli

Kyeli — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 18:10:01 +0000

@Natalia, I didn’t say I was getting rid of my cats. I generally agree with you, and my cats are certainly family to me. I never even considered the possibility of them being accessories.

And I think in general, and in specific, “throwing them out” is irresponsible and cruel.

However, if a person finds that they’ve taken on too much responsibility, and their cats are suffering for it, I think it’s the best thing for all of them to find the cats a new home. Cats will adjust, and they’ll be better off if their owner loves them and takes good care of them, rather than seeing them as a burden and neglecting them.

Knowing yourself well enough to see that you can’t handle your pet(s) and aren’t treating them as well as they deserve, and then finding a good home for them, is a kindness to all involved.

By: Natalia

Natalia — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 12:10:47 +0000

That’s all fine and good, but you can’t just decide one day that you have too many cats and throw them out. That would be completely irresponsible. If you adopt a feline or canine friend, they are FAMILY. You are all they know. Giving them away is betrayal.

Too many cats? Find another way to deal, lower stress in other areas of your life and probably the stress your cats cause you will disappear too.

And why did you get so many cats to begin with? Unless you’re not treating them as they deserve to be treated, deal. Cats aren’t accessories.

By: Jennifer Louden

Jennifer Louden — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 16:12:29 +0000

Good way to think about this – better for me han the whole simplify your life conversation… looking for the stress factors that can be gently disconnected from… Too many pens in the kitchen!

Hmm… What about the things we can’t disconnect from like our teenager when she is in certain moods? I can, and do, for a few minutes, stop engaging with her, but then…. more complicated it does get, I say in bad Yoda speak.

By: Pace

Pace — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 05:42:36 +0000

@Kyeli: I like how this post is kind of the flipside of my last post. I'm talking about connecting to what you want and you're talking about disconnecting from what you don't want. It's neat. (:

By: Green

Green — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:50:08 +0000

What about the friends that are connected to the ones you need to get away from? IE: A group of friends that you see mostly together, or in the same place. Not all ten are always around, but there’s no way of knowing which of the 10 will be around.. Ten friends that are all pretty important, but one turns into a 20% of unhappy. How do you get rid of one without causing drama that upsets the other friends, or avoiding the group? :(

By: James | Dancing Geek

James | Dancing Geek — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 01:07:52 +0000

First I’d have to work out which 20% is causing the 80% of the nasty. And that means looking at the nasty. *shudder*

Like the thinking here though, makes a lot of sense.

By: Kyeli

Kyeli — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:25:54 +0000

@Nick: I learned this last year, but didn’t really grok it til this year. And, man, when I did, I started applying it like crazy. It’s awesome! (:

@Jenn: Yay! I’m really glad it helped!

@Kathy: I have no idea what you’re talking about. Perhaps you meant to talk to Pace? (:

By: the sassy kathy

the sassy kathy — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:10:42 +0000

i adore that henry miller quote you posted!!!! thanks :)

By: jenn

jenn — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:01:27 +0000

I absolutely needed to hear this today. Thank you.

By: Nick

Nick — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 14:38:36 +0000

This is one of the most important lessons i have learned this year in my life. Simply put: In order to make room for new things in my life, i need to free up energy from things that don’t work as well. I find this principle so important that it is part of my daily practice. Every morning I examine myself. During this bit of time I look for the things in my life that seem wasteful. All that misspent energy. From there i concentrate on thing i’m trying to improve in my life. As if channeling the energy from the old things to the new. Quite useful.