Introducing Book Bonanza Wednesdays! Chapter 1: The usual error
by Kyeli on January 14th, 2009 @ 12:42 pm in
Usual Error Project
Tags: the usual error ebook
We like you guys so much, we’re going to ply you with awesome stuff!
Every Wednesday for the next 34 weeks, we’ll be posting a new chapter from The Usual Error book! This means that you get to read the entire book, complete with illustrations, over the course of the next 8 months. (Impatient? Biased toward physical objects? You can always buy it here!)
As an added bonus, we’ll post a chapter of the audio book at the same time. We’re reading the book ourselves, with a little help from our friends, so you’ll get our quirky voices and inflections. It’ll be like we’re in your living room! Only, less crowded. EDIT: We turned the audiobook into a full-fledged product that you can buy from our store, professionally produced on a 6-CD set. Check it out!
But wait – that’s not all!
Every Wednesday will also be a Q&A day. We’ll post the chapter links. You guys read it. Sounds simple enough, but we’re going to complicate things! (In a good way.) On Wednesdays, we’ll turn the blog into a forum. Any and all questions pertaining to the chapter we’ve posted will get answered by one or the other of us, so save ‘em up and throw ‘em at us!
We really love sharing this information with everyone, so we’re giving it away (very slowly) to make sure everyone who needs it can get it. Helping you is our first and foremost goal.
We’re excited about Book Bonanza Wednesdays, so without further ado, let’s get this ball rolling! Begin transmission:
Chapter 1: The usual error
The usual error is assuming that other people are just like you.
Assuming that others think like you, would react to a certain situation like you would, or value the same things you do — all of these are examples of the usual error. Psychologists call it projection bias: we project our own perceptions, opinions, and emotions onto another person, as if our experiences were theirs. We all do this. We do it all the time; that’s why it’s called the usual error. Making the usual error isn’t something to fear, it’s something to notice. In our experience, most miscommunications stem from the usual error. When you learn to recognize that it’s happening, you can turn arguments into opportunities for understanding.
…and here’s the rest:
(The reason we’re not posting the entire chapter in the blog is that for one, it looks better over there at its permanent home because there’s more room on the sidebar, and two, so people can find it easily and navigate through it without wading through lots of blog posts.)
- Related posts:
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 17: We’re on the same team
- The Final Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 34: Endings
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 14: It’s not all about me
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 30: It’s okay to have problems
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 28: Verbal aikido
 Have you read our book, The Usual Error? It teaches you how to solve communication issues with compassion and understanding, how to get rid of needless conflict from your life, how to make your relationships smoother, and how to generally be happier. Also, the illustrations are super cool. (:You can buy it on Amazon or read it for free online. |
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#2 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 4: The other half of communication | Pace and Kyeli on February 4th, 2009 8:17 am | link
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#3 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 5: Checking in | Pace and Kyeli on February 11th, 2009 2:27 pm | link
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#4 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 6: I already know this, but I need to hear you say it again | Pace and Kyeli on February 18th, 2009 9:22 am | link
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#5 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 7: What problem are you trying to solve? | Pace and Kyeli on February 25th, 2009 8:55 am | link
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#6 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 8: Feeling considered | Pace and Kyeli on March 4th, 2009 8:29 am | link
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#7 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 9: Holding healthy boundaries | Pace and Kyeli on March 11th, 2009 10:04 am | link
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#8 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 10: Fierceness | Pace and Kyeli on March 18th, 2009 11:47 am | link
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#9 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 11: Ask for what you need | Pace and Kyeli on March 25th, 2009 12:28 pm | link
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#10 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 12: I am not green | Pace and Kyeli on April 1st, 2009 11:14 am | link
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#11 Posted by 
@TheGirlPie on April 4th, 2009 3:31 pm | link
Wow! All this time this has been here and it took Colleen’s swell newsletter sidebar to get me over here — ah! Just DL’ing the MP3 now so I have a reason to get on the dreadmill — I won’t get to hear the next chapter if I don’t get back onto that motorize purgatory — so thanks for the motivation and for writing the book in the first place. Keep up the good works ~
~GirlPie
#13 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 13: “I” statements | Pace and Kyeli on April 8th, 2009 7:35 am | link
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#14 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 14: It’s not all about me | Pace and Kyeli on April 15th, 2009 11:10 am | link
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#15 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 15: What did you intend? | Pace and Kyeli on April 22nd, 2009 7:07 am | link
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#16 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 16: The next time I ask for $1000, just give me a veggie burger instead! | Pace and Kyeli on April 29th, 2009 7:18 am | link
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#17 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 17: We’re on the same team | Pace and Kyeli on May 6th, 2009 10:56 am | link
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#18 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 18: Coming to terms | Freak Revolution on May 13th, 2009 9:30 am | link
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#19 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 19: Meta-communication | Freak Revolution on May 20th, 2009 9:32 am | link
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#20 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 20: Memory | Freak Revolution on May 27th, 2009 9:31 am | link
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#21 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 21: Trust your future self | Freak Revolution on June 3rd, 2009 9:31 am | link
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#22 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 22: Giving permission to disappoint | Freak Revolution on June 10th, 2009 9:33 am | link
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#23 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 23: The only way out is through | Freak Revolution on June 17th, 2009 9:31 am | link
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#24 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 24: The William James zone | Freak Revolution on June 24th, 2009 9:33 am | link
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#25 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 25: The lollipop | Freak Revolution on July 1st, 2009 2:09 pm | link
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#26 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 26: What do I get out of being right? | Freak Revolution on July 8th, 2009 9:31 am | link
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#27 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 27: Reflection | Freak Revolution on July 15th, 2009 9:33 am | link
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#1 Posted by Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 3: Different personality types | Pace and Kyeli on January 28th, 2009 3:22 pm | link
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