Expanding your edges as growth.

by Kyeli on April 10th, 2009 @ 5:30 am in How To Be Awesome
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Another Friday, another epiphany from Iron Pentacle class.

Growth moves us. Growth keeps us from stagnation. Often, we fear it, but the alternative is far, far worse – a lack of growth is a lack of living.

I was sitting on the floor, learning absorbing taking in all this magick and light, and I could feel myself growing. I could feel my tendrils reaching out. I could feel my edges expanding into newness.

I was sitting on the floor, listening. The epiphany had planted seeds, but I wasn’t quite there yet. Suddenly, I got it – and I started drawing circles into the carpet with my fingertips.

We live in circles – we are circles. We have boundaries and edges, personal space and comfort zones. Growing feels safest in tiny pushes against those circles – I form little rings outside what is currently comfortable for me, and then I grow out. I grow into that slightly bigger circle til it’s comfortable, then start the process all over again. Sometimes I’ll have rapid growth – and my circles get bigger all lop-sidedly. Then it takes me a while to even out and adjust, but it can be just as awesome and fun as the little pushes.

Like tree rings!

It’s a process, growth. Expanding your edges, pushing just outside of your circle. Feeling it out, testing the waters.

Recently, I was trying on clothes. My favorite thing – the one that most delighted me – was a pale cream dress with pink flowers! If you looked in my closet, you’d know why that’s so odd. Most of my clothes are dark earthy colors: olive green, brown, some dark grey, some black. No dresses. Certainly no flowery things, and certainly no light or bright colors!

It seems minor, but it’s actually a reflection of major inner workings. Growth – I’ve been expanding my circles for over a year, and now my fashion sense is starting to reflect that. It pushes my boundaries a little to wear the light cream dress with pink flowers.

But it also makes me happy. It makes me feel new.

Expanding into newness is an excellent way to grow. Test things, try things, see what works and what fails. Try a shirt in a color you’ve never worn. Try that new dish at your old favorite restaurant. Try a new hairstyle – hair grows!

If you always stay inside those comfort zones, you’ll never feel that sense of newness – you’ll never grow.

I challenge you to try something new today. One new thing – it can be little or big. If you leave me a comment, I’ll even cheer you on – I’d love to hear what you’ll try!


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7 Comments!

#1 Posted by Tanya on April 10th, 2009 8:27 am | link

I’m going to try watering down my gatorade today to see if it is more refreshing that way. And yay for pretty dresses!

#2 Posted by Tanya on April 10th, 2009 9:03 am | link

UPDATE: yes, it is!

#3 Posted by Kristina B on April 10th, 2009 10:42 am | link

Is this the dress you wore in your most recent Freaky Thursday? Because, I don’t know you personally, but what you were wearing in that video seemed striking to me and somehow fresh. Excellent!

I like this imagery. Thanks so much for keeping this blog!

#4 Posted by Kyeli on April 10th, 2009 11:30 am | link

@Tanya Cool! I’m glad it worked! I myself am a non-diluted juice/gatorade drinker. (;

@Kristina Actually, the dress in the video was my favorite of my first run of new dresses. The pink-and-green flowery one from today’s post is my favorite of my second run. Neither of them are really anything I’d've worn a year ago, but the pink flowers were especially odd. (; Thanks for the compliment! And you’re welcome – I love writing, so I’m glad you love reading it.

#5 Posted by Oliver Danni on April 10th, 2009 7:14 pm | link

http://peaceofpie.livejournal.com/744104.html … I’m taking suggestions. ;-)

#6 Posted by Anna Conlan ~ Healing and Insight on April 17th, 2009 7:35 am | link

Hi Kyeli,

This post made me better understand my own growth processes – my way of growing isn’t particularly linear, like you I push my comfort zone edges out a little gradually and it takes a while before that forms a complete ‘circle’ and I see the results of it in my life as an actual shift.

Thanks!

#7 Posted by Daniel Edlen on April 22nd, 2009 10:22 am | link

(Found you via @havi)

I like the 3D version: bubbles! We’re all in our bubbles, but if we’re careful and gentle we can stick our hands out and into the bubbles of others. And if we’re really good at it, we can fuse bubbles, bringing people together. Thanks for this, and you.

Peace.

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