Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 14: It’s not all about me
by Pace and Kyeli on April 15th, 2009 @ 11:06 am in
Usual Error Project
Tags: the usual error audiobook, the usual error ebook
Each week we give away the next chapter of our book for free. We hope you enjoy it! Here’s this week’s chapter:
Chapter 14: It’s not all about me
The root cause of the usual error is that we assume things about others based on our own internal perceptions, concepts, and experiences. In addition to causing the usual error, this causes another error: the egocentric bias. We know everything there is to know about our own actions and responses, so we mistakenly assume we’re responsible for the actions and responses of others. For instance, when someone we know is upset and we don’t know the cause, we’re more likely to think it’s because of something we did than to think it’s because of something completely unrelated.
…and here’s the rest:
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- The Final Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 34: Endings
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 21: Trust your future self
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 5: Checking in
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 6: I already know this, but I need to hear you say it again
- Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 30: It’s okay to have problems
#1 Posted by
Julia on April 16th, 2009 12:13 pm | link
Sometimes it helps to have a shorthand way of saying, “It’s not you, REALLY.” Like when you have to cut someone short because you need to reach the toilet *before* the diarrhea really hits. So, one possible shorthand for brushing someone off (but make sure they’re in the know on this!) is, “Diarrhea moment!” as you rush away. Or explaining after the fact if there’s not enough time to even get those two words out, “I’m sorry about that, I was having a diarrhea moment.”
Or if you have something that won’t gross out as many people that works for you, that’s fine, as well.