Wedding Wednesday: Vows, part one
by Kyeli on November 25th, 2009 @ 9:30 am in
Connection Paradigm
Tags: wedding
Pace and I made fifteen vows to each other.
We spent a few hours curled up in a coffee shoppe, whispering sweetness and outlining the things we wanted to promise each other. We went through our book and reworded the chapters that sang to our hearts to better mesh with the rest. We held hands and looked into each other’s eyes and worked out the most important things to each of us.
And now, we share them with you. Here are the bulk of our vows, the first thirteen. (The last two are forthcoming, in the next two weeks.)
In this sacred space, surrounded by our loved ones, in the presence of Spirit, I do vow:
to endeavor to know myself in all my parts.
to speak truth to you in all things at all times, with exceptions for positive surprises and amusement value.
to be open, to talk things through as they occur, and to ask for what I need.
to honor your boundaries, be they physical, emotional, or spiritual.
to hold healthy physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries of my own.
to treat you with kindness.
to consider you in all things.
to be on your team, always.
to place no relationship above ours, save only my relationships with myself and with Spirit.
to always support you in following your dreams and the dreams we share together.
to accept your feelings as they are.
to give you space to be who you are, no matter who you are.
to acknowledge and accept that you will disappoint me.
We are happy to share our reasons behind any or all of them, but they seem self-explanatory, so I’m going to leave them as they are. Feel free to ask us anything; we’ll happily answer.
- Related posts:
- Wedding Wednesday: Vows, part two
- Wedding Wednesday: Vows, part three
- Wedding Wednesday: That’s All, Folks!
- Wedding Wednesday: The Ceremony Preamble
- Wedding Wednesday: On the Occasion of the Marriage of Pace and Kyeli
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3 Comments!
#2 Posted by 
Donna Deluso on November 27th, 2009 8:18 am | link
Excellent vows. They encapsulate all thats worth aspiring to.
#3 Posted by 
Pace on November 29th, 2009 3:16 pm | link
Here’s how we came up with the list.
We sat down in a cafe and thought of all the things that were most important to us in our relationship. We went through the table of contents of The Usual Error to jog our memories and speed up the process. We kept writing things down until we felt like we were done. Then we went back and reworded them.
There wasn’t anything more complicated than that — these vows were more a reflection of how we already treat each other, so it was more “let’s write down what we already do and make it official” than coming up with new things from scratch.
#1 Posted by
Oliver Danni on November 27th, 2009 2:20 am | link
I am SO happy for you two, and I hope someday I find someone(s) I love and trust enough to share those promises with.
I do have a question! Will you share how you came up with that list? I am interested to hear about the creation process.
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