Comments on: Self-acceptance http://freakrevolution.com/2009/11/30/self-acceptance/ Normal people won't change the world. We will. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:57:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Michael http://freakrevolution.com/2009/11/30/self-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-2813 Michael Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:02:14 +0000 http://freakrevolution.com/?p=3262#comment-2813 But you don't want to give up on self-improvement, right? In the quest to be awesome, there is a kernel of, "I am not currently awesome." I think the problem is really in a mismatch of goals and needs. A man thinks, "I need to look like an athlete." is setting a goal that doesn't meet the real need of feeling sexy and desired. We all seek to fit in and feel a part of those around us - then wrap all these goals around with the underlying need. "If I could just do X, then Y would happen." That won't happen. The only result is that you've done X. But you don’t want to give up on self-improvement, right?

In the quest to be awesome, there is a kernel of, “I am not currently awesome.”

I think the problem is really in a mismatch of goals and needs. A man thinks, “I need to look like an athlete.” is setting a goal that doesn’t meet the real need of feeling sexy and desired.

We all seek to fit in and feel a part of those around us – then wrap all these goals around with the underlying need. “If I could just do X, then Y would happen.” That won’t happen. The only result is that you’ve done X.

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://freakrevolution.com/2009/11/30/self-acceptance/comment-page-1/#comment-2810 Hayden Tompkins Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:35:06 +0000 http://freakrevolution.com/?p=3262#comment-2810 I've kept a journal ever since was a kid. And <i>no matter how old I was</i> I always had "be more feminine" in there. Why is a nine year old obsessed with being feminine? What does that even mean?? My heart aches when I think about that younger girl, about how broken she felt, about how she never fit in. And yet I am overjoyed when I realized that it was <i>exactly</i> those qualities I most wanted to fit it that are frequently sources of strength for me. Why can’t we look like ourselves? And BE ourselves?? I love this. .-= Hayden Tompkins´s last blog ..<a href="http://throughtheillusion.com/2009/11/30/defending/" rel="nofollow">Defender</a> =-. I’ve kept a journal ever since was a kid. And no matter how old I was I always had “be more feminine” in there.

Why is a nine year old obsessed with being feminine? What does that even mean??

My heart aches when I think about that younger girl, about how broken she felt, about how she never fit in. And yet I am overjoyed when I realized that it was exactly those qualities I most wanted to fit it that are frequently sources of strength for me.

Why can’t we look like ourselves? And BE ourselves??

I love this.
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