Wedding Wednesday: Vows, part two

#1 Posted by Ealasaid on December 2nd, 2009 11:32 am | link

I love this! Wow. That’s a brave vow to make, not to hang on if it becomes obvious you should let go. I love the wording, too.

#2 Posted by LJF Wolffe on December 2nd, 2009 1:55 pm | link

When MiLady Katrina and I wrote our vows, we pledged to be together “for as long as our love shall last,” because although we couldn’t picture ever wanting out, we refused to make a vow we might be unable to keep. That’ll be 18 years ago in May. 8-)

I love how you worded yours — clear guidelines, “open standards,” and good priorities. And I’m loving hearing about your ceremony! Looking forward to more. Namaste!
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#3 Posted by Mark Silver on December 2nd, 2009 3:20 pm | link

That is a beautiful sentiment and I love how you worded it. One worry thought that crops up for me is the “year and a day” time limit. I’ve noticed in my own relationship with Holly, going on 16 years together now, that there were at least two different issues we confronted that took more than a year to get through.

So, my prayer and hope is that you don’t take that particular time limit as any kind of ultimate deadline, but allow some flexibility and movement with that. When you’re in a life-long commitment, some things just take a while to simmer through.
Mark Silver´s last blog ..Do You Really Need to Spend Big Bucks to Get the Attention of Search Engines?

#4 Posted by Pace on December 2nd, 2009 3:26 pm | link

@Mark: That’s why we said “unsolvable”, not “unsolved”. It’s only if we feel that a solution doesn’t exist after a year and a day, not that a solution exists and it’ll just take some more time for us to get there.

We will, of course, follow our hearts. (: Love to you and yours.

#5 Posted by Nathalie Lussier on December 2nd, 2009 3:27 pm | link

Again with the smartnesses! I think it’s a great thing to include, because you’re right – sometimes things change and it’s good to think about each side of the equation.

I do agree with Mark though on the timeline. My boyfriend Robin and I have had some things to work through that took us more than a year.. but that got resolved nicely in the end as well. :)

Lots of love all around!
Nathalie Lussier´s last blog ..Raw Food Gift Buying Guide for the Holidays

#6 Posted by James on December 2nd, 2009 3:37 pm | link

That’s very wise.

#7 Posted by Mark Silver on December 2nd, 2009 3:40 pm | link

Thank you! I should have given it a more careful reading. I kinda suspected that’s what you’d do, but I feel so much better after you explained that. Which is the point. Because, after all, it’s all about me, isn’t it? (sigh)
Mark Silver´s last blog ..Do You Really Need to Spend Big Bucks to Get the Attention of Search Engines?

#8 Posted by Heather Freeman on December 2nd, 2009 4:46 pm | link

That reminds me of our wedding vows, in which we swore to love as long as there was will to do so. It is a much more healthy approach than the soul-destroying “till death do us part”. May it be a spreading trend!
Heather Freeman´s last blog ..Chronic pain dilemmas

#9 Posted by Andy Hayes on December 2nd, 2009 4:57 pm | link

Love these! How awesome!
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#10 Posted by Victoria Brouhard on December 2nd, 2009 7:28 pm | link

Beautiful, honest and empowering.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful ceremony with all of us!
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#11 Posted by Green on December 2nd, 2009 7:51 pm | link

This is so important and I really get it. I thought it was a brilliant sentiment and a brilliant expression, too.

#12 Posted by Megan M. on December 2nd, 2009 10:25 pm | link

My favorite part of your vows, for just those reasons. Level headed, very solid, very wise. Everyone looked up and really thought when they heard y’all say that.
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#13 Posted by nw on December 3rd, 2009 12:33 pm | link

That’s incredibly brave, clear-eyed, and beautiful.
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#14 Posted by Leah/DefytheBox on December 7th, 2009 2:41 pm | link

I love that you give each other space to make a choice to stay and a choice to go if you realize that you can not solve things. To me that feels like real freedom to love each other.

Rock on!
Leah
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#15 Posted by Winding Down, Gearing Up…for Awesomeness or, Well, Something « Looking for Roots on December 28th, 2009 2:16 pm | link

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