Wanted: A new friend.

#1 Posted by Oliver Danni on March 8th, 2010 12:36 pm | link

Well, poo. I don’t live near Austin. I am moving, though, and I don’t yet know where I’m moving to… ;-)

Is having an obnoxiously sexual sense of humor okay? As in, I giggle at boobies excessively and accidentally see every phallic-like object as a penis metaphor somehow…but I’m not “sexual in manner” like I don’t hit on people who don’t want to be hit on (except by extreme accident and then I’m horribly embarrassed) or hump the furniture at parties or anything like that.

Also, I’ve noticed an inverse relationship between people who will self-identify as “having their shit together” and people who others (others being “me”) would identify as “having their shit together”…have you also noticed this? Do you think that someone who sees your ad who actually might be a great friend for you is necessarily likely to self-identify as “having their shit together”, or that someone who thinks they have their shit together is likely to respond to your ad and really, really not have their shit together at all?
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#2 Posted by Katy on March 8th, 2010 1:12 pm | link

I love this! I know how challenging it can be to find new friends. If I were in Austin, I’d love to meet for a cup of coffee. I know there’s a lot of power behind these want ads, so I’m sure your new friend (or friends) will be right around the corner. Best of luck to you!!
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#3 Posted by Meredyth Hunt on March 8th, 2010 1:14 pm | link

I can’t believe how many of those requirements I meet except living in Austin!! Grrr. I am from Austin but now live in L.A. It feels good to do so well on a “test” but sucks to fail none the less. If I have any local friends that fit the bill I will send them over. Good luck!

#4 Posted by Bobby on March 8th, 2010 1:27 pm | link

I am a happy compassionate, ambitious, peaceful, and idealistic, spiritual type that’s not religious, living in Austin, am passionate about making the world a better place, have healthy boundaries and know how to hold them, I enjoy communication theory and practice I am passionately dedicated to personal growth, and as such I am reaching out back to you :^), I am not a vegetarian, however I am a non-smoker, I am
entrepreneurial minded and hoping step from my steady paycheck addiction, I am money-positive, empowered and biggified, I am Married to a beautiful woman with 2 beautiful baby girls, so I love pink but I’m not queer so queer-friendly, sensitive, but who likes a drama queen anyways? I watch HGTV and TLC mostly just design shows and house hunters and I haven’t watched the news in over 2 years, politics YIKES No! I am happy to learn and speak our languages of friendship generally have my shit together am generally happy, cheerful, and positive I have a 2 and 3 whats not to be cheerful about..

I’d like to thank @havi as her tweet sent me here and as luck would have it, you are also in Austin ( My family and I are new to Austin since July 09) and are always looking to make friends. If you read this far say hello sometime.

Peace Out

Bobby
@DoubleBee

#5 Posted by Sandy on March 8th, 2010 8:50 pm | link

This is interesting to me. I love Havi’s personal ads and have used them (oh, have you tried Shiva Nata? You really should. A. MA. ZING!

I meet a lot of your criteria, but don’t live in Austin. But I totally get where you’re coming from. I have a job, a husband, 2 kids and lead a spiritual group and looked up recently and thought, “what happened to my friends?” I still have friends, but some I thought were there are gone. Those that are really there have as many obligations as I do and suddenly, besides my family, there are very few people to laugh with or cry with. I miss that. If I lived in/near Austin, I’d be all over your ad. Good luck. Do let us know how it works out. Meanwhile, thanks for being out there blogging.
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#6 Posted by Omega on March 8th, 2010 9:35 pm | link

Wow, you really make me wish I lived in or near Austin!

I’m just going to continue admiring you from Melbourne, Australia, okay?? :)

(if you’re ever in town.. I’m totally going to show you the sights. )
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#7 Posted by Michelle on March 8th, 2010 10:05 pm | link

What a great idea for a VPA! It can be tough to make friends with like-minded people in one’s area. Sadly I don’t like anywhere near Austin, but let us know how it goes!
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#8 Posted by Julia on March 8th, 2010 10:08 pm | link

I failed to meet 3 of the criteria.

But, I don’t have to eat meat around people who would prefer to not be around the eating of meat. Dunno what to do about the entrepreneur part (just not happening for a long time for me), and I’m not TV-free, news-free or politics-free, but my life doesn’t revolve around any of those, more an interest in passing and concern about the impact each of those has on causes I’m interested in. (Mostly I read blogs about topics I’m interested in, and find out about news related to those interests and portrayals of people, real and fictional, on TV that I’m not bothering to watch myself.)

#9 Posted by Pace on March 9th, 2010 6:55 pm | link

@Oliver: When writing something like this, the usual error runs rampant. To take an extreme case, imagine if we just wrote “Someone who’s totally awesome.” Well, plenty of people consider themselves to be totally awesome by their definition, but not all of them are totally awesome by our definition. This whole enumerating-of-characteristics thing is an attempt to work around the usual error.

@Katy: If you are ever in Austin, please let us know and we’ll be happy to meet you for coffee! As for now, how can we best keep in touch online? I’ll email you. (:

@Bobby: We’ll email you as soon as SXSW craziness is past!

@Sandy: Yes, we have tried Shiva Nata, but we haven’t practiced it much yet. Let’s keep in touch! Are you on Twitter?

@Omega: Oh, Melbourne is definitely on our list of places to visit. We’ll be sure to post about it when we do start making less tentative plans!

@Michelle: We certainly will. And for now, I’ll follow you on Twitter. (:

@Julia: I like you the way you are. I’m not complaining. (:

#10 Posted by Oliver Danni on March 9th, 2010 7:16 pm | link

Indeed! I think the enumerating of characteristics is awesome. :)

What I was thinking is…if I made a similar list (which I’ve tried to, but I always end up stuck on stuff like this!), I think that i’d be making the usual error if I said “someone who has their shit together” assuming that someone who had their shit together would agree with me that they had their shit together, and that someone who didn’t would also agree with me that they did not. Like, I have a whole bunch of friends who, if I asked them “Do you have your shit together?” they would say “no, of course not!”, but if you asked me “Does so-and-so have their shit together?” I would say “yeah, totally!” I think it’s kind of like the usual error…or at least, a subset of it.
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#11 Posted by Ana Ottman on March 10th, 2010 3:01 pm | link

Brava for putting your desires out there into the world! You two rock.

I will be in Austin as of early June (fingers crossed–the job search is in full force), and meet most (all?) of your criteria :) Will drop ya a line when I arrive…
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#12 Posted by Pace on March 10th, 2010 6:02 pm | link

@Ana: Looking forward to it! (:

#13 Posted by Sammy Nams on March 11th, 2010 4:20 am | link

Hmmm … I have tried a raw diet and loved it. =D Came up with some pretty cool Korean dishes using only raw ingredients… unfortunately, I also like pasta, steak, burritos and every imaginable food in the world, so I couldn’t keep it up.
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#14 Posted by Bre on March 18th, 2010 12:55 am | link

hahaha

I don’t qualify, but I get all the good stuff anyway. I also win twice because when you meet this person (people?) I will likely get to meet them too! I’m a big cheater!

I love you both. I love that you love my meat eating, politics babbling, television/news watching, not always loving herself self. :)

You love the world you want to have, and you love in the world you’ve got. It’s magic.